Ways To Get Motivated

Kent Wessinger motivationWe all want to be motivated and be on top of our game. However, getting started on our upward journey might need a little help. To get the ball rolling, try a few tricks from the experts to get yourself revved up and moving in high gear.

Using Positive Thoughts

They say you can fake it until you make it and every word of that is true. Some people can’t find the energy to get motivated because they have spent years beating up on themselves. The new and exciting you must learn the art of self respect and how to love the one and only you.

Thinking positive thoughts is a good head start. However, when you say the words out loud, something will jump inside your inner self. As you are driving around town, begin to speak out loud and tell yourself all about your wonderful traits. To enhance the exercise further, stand in front of a mirror and lift your wonderful self up to even greater heights. This simple daily routine will give you confidence, competency, and a sense of well-being to get yourself back on track and able to get things done.

The Power Of the Pen

If you want to jump start your daily activities, the power of the pen is your new best friend. Writing things down has an incredible effect to help you accomplish your long and short-term goals. Each night, make a list of everything you wish to accomplish the next day, from waking up time until bedtime. Be realistic in your goals and get busy with item number one first thing in the morning. As you complete each task, cross the entry off your list.

Using this visual aid allows you to track your progress and may excite you to do more. Nothing feels better than being able to cross off another entry and reach the finish line before going to bed. This exercise is ideal for giving you a sense of well-being by flooding your body with endorphins. The brain will quickly crave more of the euphoric feelings created by the satisfaction of a job well done.

Seeking Positive People

One of the most dependable ways to land yourself in to a rut is to be surrounded by negative energy. People who backbite, nag and complain can destroy your inner being. If you do not have local friends that share your positive thoughts, then try seeking out quality people by joining a meeting group, taking a class that motivates you, or finding fast friends online.

As your motivation increases, you will find yourself planning more tasks and setting higher goals. Whether you have a support group to help you or you plan to trail blaze on your own, approaching the finish line to becoming a highly motivated individual will be a race well run.

Ways To Change Negative Thinking

The cycle and pattern of negative thinking is a though one to break. It is ingrained in you, you may not even be aware of it, and it can take its toll on your mental health.

Certain things occur to trigger your negative thoughts, and what often happens after is obsession and dwelling on that negative, cultivating more negative thoughts and emotions, and you easily head down a rabbit hole of self-criticism and loathing.

What needs to change is that circuit, that path by which your negative thoughts travel and perpetuate. By altering that circuit, disrupting it, you are able to train your brain to be more inclined towards positive or neutral thoughts that aren’t detrimental to your well-being.

Create Consciousness

To be able to alter your thinking, you need to know what your thoughts are. If you notice yourself beginning the pattern of negative thoughts, acknowledge those thoughts and remind yourself that obsessing over specifics and negatives is a waste of time!

Break it down: what happened that upset you, why did it upset you, what are your negative thoughts, etc. This cognitive evaluation will calm your brain down so you do not continue to ruminate and spiral into negative thinking.

Determine Evidence

Often times, when we are having negative thoughts about ourselves or a situation, the things we tell ourselves are exaggerated or untrue. The next time you notice this negative thought process, try to flush out the evidence supporting these negative thoughts.

Am I truly a failure? Can I really never do anything properly?

You will come away from this, more often than not, with a clearer sense of self by discovering that you are not defective or worthless and you are not beyond hope. In fact, many of these negative notions are completely false and can simply be disproven through your own, introspection.

Practice Makes Perfect

You may not become really good at something after doing it only once, twice, even three times! Repetition and practice are surefire ways to instill a habit or value in yourself. Therefore, use the practice of recognizing, appraising, and acknowledging your negative thoughts and altering them into more positive, more neutral patterns even when something slightly upsetting happens.

The more you bring your own awareness to your own thoughts and feelings, the more you will understand yourself and why you may be caught in a cycle of negative thinking that is affecting your day to day life.

How to Write Thought Leadership Content: Right vs. Wrong

According to the ever powerful, all-knowing Google, a thought leader is “one whose views on a subject are taken to be authoritative and influential.”

So when you hear thought leader in the context of creating content and digital copy, you should know that those individuals know what they are writing about when it comes to their own specialties. However, what makes a truly effective, respected thought leader is their ability to eloquently and adequately express themselves through written word.

This notion made me think about the right and wrong ways to be a thought leader through writing – something I consider myself to be decently proficient at by this point… Writing I mean!

I have outlined those rights and wrongs so those of you who are trying to cultivate your own thought-following can start off on the right track!

Wrong – Writing to an audience

It is fine and dandy to mention your achievements but the purpose of thought leadership is this: to use your experience and authority to influence and educate others. You cannot do this by talking at your audience about all the amazing awards and recognition you have received.

Right – Write for an audience

Effective writing considers the needs of the readers. Without this, the message might be lost, the readers might lose interest, and you do NOT want that. An effective thought leader considers the necessity of the information they are sharing. If it isn’t absolutely necessary, do not share it.

Wrong – Self-centered, one-track mind

While you may be doing some very interesting work and are involved in some fantastic ventures, you have lost the purpose of your writing when your focus is constantly angled towards a personal agenda. Being self-serving is not endearing.

Right – Critical thinking

So you have the experience to talk about something with authority, but are you the only one? Of course not! You add to your own authority by referencing and sharing other thought leaders’ work and accomplishments. There is a reason a thought leader is a thought leader, and by referencing other thought leaders, you can more easily tap into their reader base!

Wrong – Arrogance equals death

Not sure how many more ways I can express that it is VERY important that your readers do not get the sense that you think you are the be-all-end-all of your specialty. They will not trust you. They will not like you.

Right – Modesty and vulnerability equals life

When a reader can tell that you are knowledgeable about your specialty and yet offer insightful information and references not offered elsewhere while ALSO showing your human side, you will win them over. Once someone makes a personal connection with you, regardless of whether or not you have ever met, they will invest their time in reading your writing.

Do Not Live To Regret These Wastes Of Time

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When we think back on our lives and think of the activities widely regarded as wastes of time, we probably do not feel so negative about these: killing time playing solitaire, reading trashy magazines, putting effort into personal maintenance, etc.

However, there are certain bad habits that once looked at from a distance of time-passed, are certainly huge wastes of time that could have been avoided.

I Didn’t Ask For Help

There will be countless moments when you wonder if you should ask a question. You may worry that you might sound ignorant for asking about something. You want to look confident and professional at all times but what if you’re lost or confused? Always opt to ask for help. You look way better asking a question and getting clarification rather than winging it and getting it wrong.

I Knew It Was A Bad Relationship, But I Thought I Could Make It Work

When it becomes clear that a relationship is less than ideal, it’s time to call it quits. If you have to convince yourself that the relationship is worth it, if you’re staying just to avoid being alone, or you’re sticking around just because you’re afraid to lose your partner completely from your life, it’s time to end things. While there are reasons to fight for a relationship, the above are not reasons to entertain.

I Can’t Stop Harping On My Past Failures

It’s one thing to reflect on your mistakes and use them as valuable lessons. It’s another to dwell on the past, letting it cripple your confidence and hindering you from moving forward. Instead, consider your shortcomings as opportunities to learn and grow from. Don’t create extra baggage for yourself. It is absolutely not worth it.

I Worry Too Much About Others

Making yourself your first priority is hard, but it’s possibly the best thing you can do for yourself. That is not to say you shouldn’t care about others. But, you shouldn’t put others before yourself. If you are not making yourself your own priority, who else will?

The Power of Persuasion

If you can persuade people to listen to you, your words reign supreme. Persuasion is a skill rarely discussed when explaining how top leaders organize and run their businesses; however, it is a vital component to pushing projects through the pipeline and turning ideas into reality. If you want to learn how to be persuasive, read what’s ahead.

Take a bold stance and stick with it.

How many times have you heard presidential candidates referred to as “flip-floppers” or criticized for refusing to take a hard stance and run with it. Undoubtedly, their credibility falls and they become less persuasive in the eyes of the people. The same can be said for office leaders and top executives. We are socialized to believe that confidence directly correlates with skill. Even those who have been proven to have been repeatedly wrong in the past, or unreliable, are perceived as authoritative by virtue of being confident and steadfast in their beliefs. Start to count how many times you use “I think,” or “I believe.” When you start to replace those phrases when “I know” or simply stating facts, more people will be willing to listen to what you have to say.

Speak at a moderate, appropriate pace.

Know when to speed up and slow down. Speaking at 100 miles per hour will likely throw the listener off. Speaking too slow may bore someone who already understands 90 percent of your argument. Instead, follow this method: speak slower to an audience currently in your favor and faster for one that disagrees. Speaking quickly to those who disagree unfastens them from strong, negative beliefs and slowly “preaching to the choir” allows you audience to build a deeper connection with the point you’re trying to get across.

Find smaller wins on the path to a larger one.

Every strong house is built on a solid foundation. Smaller “wins” can go a long way compared to the bigger picture. Get your audience on the same page by positioning smart stances you’re sure they’ll agree with. Afterwards, you can move in for the grand finale by posing a larger argument. If you’ve established your pathos right, you’ve stacked the cards in your favor. You’ll seem way more persuasive gaining their trust in the beginning rather than immediately posing a tough question.

Consider how your audience best digests information.

For this particular argument, would it be beneficial to provide a powerpoint presentation or a powerful anecdote? Would an anecdote seem to be too long winded? Would they respond well to hard facts or the occasional swear word? Sometimes your audience needs to be coddled before you lay out the 5W’s and H of your next big idea. Many powerful leaders find that once they’ve captured the hearts of their audience, their minds are soon to follow.
Being persuasive isn’t about tricking your audience or finding loopholes. Persuasiveness is a tool that be used to push a powerful course of action that can ultimately lead to equally powerful results.

Unprofessional Habits

unprofessionalAre you unprofessional? More than likely, your answer is no. No one likes to admit they have unprofessional tendencies, but perhaps some of your worst habits are positioning you as unprofessional to others – and you don’t even know it. If you are guilty of any of the following, it may be time to clean up your act and do a little better.

Chronic lateness.

Perhaps it’s no big deal, or even a little endearing, for your friends to know you as “the guy who’s always late,” but your colleagues won’t find it so entertaining. Arriving 5 to 10 minutes late to lunch or dinner plans with your best friend may not be a big deal, but constantly arriving late to business appointments will get old, quick! Being habitually tardy can portray you as selfish or inconsiderate of other people’s time. Be sure to set your alarm early enough for you to get to scheduled meetings and prepare ahead of time.

Being unprepared for meetings.

We are often unprepared when we fail to manage our time. In addition to scheduling time for the meeting, add a solid 15 to 20 minutes to prepare necessary documents, handouts, or powerpoint presentations. Nothing is more unprofessional than calling a meeting, and failing to present valuable information. If you aren’t the one who has called the meeting, make sure you’re briefed and up to date on what the meeting is about. Come prepared with additional information to share or engaging ideas.

Failing to respond to emails.

We all receive our fair share of emails. However, failure to respond is inexcusable. 24 hours is a reasonable window of time to allow between responses. Anything more the 48 may warrant a follow-up, or in the worst case scenario, force your point of contact to look elsewhere. Even if you do not have the time to send an in-depth response, a simple acknowledgement can go a long way.

New Species of Human Ancestor


A new species of hominin (a taxonomic group of hominids including recent humans and extinct ancestral and related forms) was announced last Thursday by a collective international team of more than 60 scientists. This team, led by Lee R. Berger, acknowledged that a species named, H. naledi has a close common ancestry with humans today.

More than 1,550 fossil elements were found making this area the largest sample for any hominin species in a single excavation site. According to two open-access journal papers, researchers believes even more fossils have yet to be found. What’s more, this discovery of secluded fossil oases suggests that the H. naledi buried their dead, a practice thought to be an attribute of only modern humans. Burial practices are typically associated with a type of religious rite, so scientists claim that early human ancestors may have conducted the practice out of habit or ritual instead of religious intent.

As of now, researches have yet to determine specific dates for the H. naledi fossils, many of which are difficult to measure given the absence of fauna remains.However, researchers were able to conclude that this particular species possessed a brain no larger than an orange. Conclusively, the root of its origin is expected to exceed 2.5 million years. The University of Wisconsin, Madison’s John Hawks described the species as “unlike any other species seen before.” Signs suggest that the average H. naledi weighed a mere 100 pounds, touting a modest 5 foot frame.

Dr. Berger’s current research has been backed by the University of Witwatersrant, the National Geographic Society, and the South African Department of Science and Technology/National Research Foundation. Current findings will be featured in the October issue of National Geographic Magazine and a two-hour NOVA/National Geographic documentary slated to air this Wednesday on PBS.

For more information, check out National Geographic’s write-up here: This Face Changes the Human Story. But How?

3 Tips for Writers, From Writers

At one point or another in our writing careers, we begin to assess how we can improve and become better at our craft. What we once thought brilliant can seem boring and amateur. When you feel unimaginative, dull, or frankly obtuse, some of the world’s bestselling authors have a few useful pieces of advice.

Kent-wessinger-kingStephen King: “If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot”

Stephen King has sold over 350 million copies of his books and published a total of 54 novels. He has additionally written almost 200 short stories. So it’s safe to say, the man has written a lot. King believes that it is necessary for writers to be well read in order to develop a unique voice in such as saturated field. Additionally, consistent reading is bound to yield a story or two so terrible, it will motivate you to keep writing. If they were able to become a published author, so can you! As for writing, King explains that your first draft is usually entirely too long. The formula for the second draft is “2nd Draft = 1st Draft – 10%.”

Kent-Wessinger-VonnegutKurt Vonnegut: “Every sentence must do one of two things—reveal character or advance the action.”

Kurt Vonnegut is an American author, responsible for popular titles like Cat’s Cradle and Slaughterhouse-Five. His primary genres were satire, humor, and science fiction. In the Bagombo Snuff Box, Vonnegut outlines 8 rules for a well written short story. A few of the rules are as follows:

  1. “Give the reader at least one character he or she can root for.”
  2. “Start as close to the end as possible”
  3. “Write to please just one person. If you open a window and make love to the world, so to speak, your story will get pneumonia.”

Kent-Wesssinger-AngelouMaya Angelou: “The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart.”

A poet, dancer, author, actress, and singer, Maya Angelou lived her life as a true artist. Her autobiographies, including the notable I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, are used in American education classes across the United States and abroad. As for writing, she says that she tries her best to write for at least two weeks straight. Although what she has written may be terrible, she has at least tried, and at some point, what she need to write will suddenly come to her and become something beautiful.

A common theme between all three writers is that through their mistakes, first drafts, and frustration came a master piece. It may not be easy, but resilience is key.